Abandon hope all ye who .... ok, maybe that's a bit strong ...

What pushed me over the edge? What was the straw that broke the camel's back?

Maybe it was yet another time when Mom's oxygen tank was on empty. Or the two full, warm opened cartons of milk left til the next day.  Or the poopy laundry left on the visitor's chair and on the floor. Or issues with chaos at meals. Or the nighttime bedside commode left full of urine during the day.

But ... I'm ready to look for another nursing home. Shopping around, again.

This facility was supposed to be so good - we are certainly paying premium prices. And there have been kindnesses to her. And there were explanations and justifications from staff about issues I've raised. But there have been a series of dismal failures, explanations or not.  And I'm very close to moving her.

In addition, she is really unhappy with the size of this place.  She went from a community of 32 maximum residents, with 2-3 staff at a time, to a community of 240 residents and innumerable staff flowing namelessly in and out of her life.

I think it's not a good match.  Very frustrating, very disappointing. Starting over, though perhaps with better results. Sigh.