My mother called today to tell me she is "going in and out of" .... ummm ... and we finally determined the word she sought was "dementia".
She feels out of control. Intermittently confused, lost.
She wanted me to 'note the date' of the inception of this decline.
Then she was ready to hang up the phone.
Sad. That's all.
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Nancy
I feel for you. My Mom knows she is slowly declining and it makes her angry and frustrated. She takes out her anger on me. I can't offer you anything except a cyber hug.
Thanks, Robin. My mom isn't as angry, but certainly is frustrated. Just makes her more desperate for my more frequent contact.
I followed up with Mom today, asking more about what she meant by "in and out of dementia". She couldn't describe it. When I prodded with some possible meanings, it seems she felt confused, disoriented, disconnected, out of body almost (my words).
I wonder if she might have another UTI or something that is causing her to have episodes of something other than dementia, which is actually more long-term rather than episodic and acute. Worth asking hospice nurse about.
Nancy
From what I've read sudden confusion can be related to other things. So hard to tell, hard to pin down. Maybe your mom knew that somehow and that's why she said to write down the date--hoping someone would link her confusion to something that could be fixed.
I hope she is able to recognize some of the holiday events--music, TV, family events--and enjoy with you.
Robin
So many good wishes to you. Of course, there could be a multitude of reason, but I do think there's something that happens that lets us even think of the end of things as, even, a possibility. I hope your holidays went well and all is as good as it can be.
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